Heartbroken people are all around us. Some turned homosexual, trusting no guys any more. Some turn to hate and revenge, hurting other guys when her own lover betrayed her. Some couldn't get over it and decides to end her own life. I should say most of the heartbroken gals and guys choose to forget and not think about it, heal over time, and move on. Hoping not to see the one they love ever again.
People are unique. Each and every one of us is unique. The way each of us fall in love is unique too. Some could fall for the smile of others, some could fall in love with a kiss, some fall in love through chatting. There're so many different ways people fall in love. So what's urs?
To me, falling in love is the most scary thing. Considering i'm not afraid of anything yet till the age of 22. Not even death scares me. But love do. Love is such a magical feeling that no words could describe. Because if you think about it, everyone's definition for love is different. Some may describe love as being together, trusting each other, being happy together. But some may say, being together is not everything, as long as we have each other in our hearts. some lovers only meet once a month, but they still are very much in love. Some may say being in love means not always quarreling, but some differ. some may think quarreling is not the problem because quarreling allows you to understand your partner more. Hence there is no way one could describe love. everyone's definition is different.
I think love is scary because to me, falling in love means opening up your heart to someone else. It means that special someone could do anything to you. You are vulnerable but you trust him/her to protect you and love you. I'm saying love not infatuation. And when I'm in love, I will trust her to take care of me just like i'll take care of her no matter what. The only way to have happiness and last for eternity is to open yourself up. Treat your partner truthfully and willingly. There may be things you hate to do. but when you know your partner loves doing a certain particular activity say swimming, you will also tend to like it and not hate it anymore. Because what's important is not hating that activity but the time spent together. It comes naturally if you really love your partner. Its like your partner loves going to the zoo, but you hate the stinking smell there. But if you are a mature and caring lady, you will agree to trips to the zoo with your partner and soon learn to love it because of the precious lovely time spent playing in the zoo. However if you are unwilling to go, but since he likes going and you decide to follow, complaining all the way and giving attitude for the whole trip, unhappiness and break ups will soon follow.
Hence to me, falling in love means to open up yourself, trust your partner 100% thou she may hurt you, even if she hurts you, calm down and access the situation to see if you would forgive her, respect her, discuss things together, willingly do things with a different perspective although you may not like it, care with your heart for her, think of sweet and romantic things to spice up your life, learn about her life, be truthful, do not lie, (unless you're planning some romantic surprise), stick your heart with her no matter what.
As for those heart broken people like me, do not try to forget your past relationships. It's no use trying to forget and run away from it. Its not like you press the delete button and everything's gone. There's really no point trying o forget. Instead, try to get over it. Tough yeah, but everyone could do it.
Do not try to forget. Instead, remember it. Remember your past relationships. What went wrong, what can be further improved, what you could do in your new relationship if you found one suitable. That's why you should remember. Not forget. The only way to "Forget the pain" is to remember your hurt and get over it. =)